“You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.”-Albert Einstein
This time I thought I was going to die! I mean, for real!! “I MUST BE LEAVING THIS PLANET TODAY!” I thought. Suddenly, I became Fred Sanford, “This is the BIG ONE! I comin’ to join you, honey! With a hole in my heart!”
I mean it sure is heck felt like it!
The pain in my chest was SO REAL — indescribable! The knot in my stomach was SO REAL — painful! I could not breathe. I thought I had contracted some terminal illness whose symptoms were just now surfacing. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep.
What the HHEELLLL was wrong with me?! I had contracted an illness alright. However, this illness would not be found in any medical text or diagnosed on WebMD. The illness I had contracted or rather been stricken with was “Broken Heart-itis.”
At some point in our lives, we have all had it. You give your whole heart to someone, thinking that what the two of you have is surely going to last forever. This time. This is the one. This time. I will never love another. This time. I will never want another. This time.
And this time it is going to be different. Yup!
Then, the unthinkable happens.
Your one and only “true love” tells you they don’t love you anymore or that they don’t feel the same about the relationship anymore or they just ghost you — disappear without warning.
Maybe it’s the other way around, you don’t love them anymore or you no longer want to be in the relationship, or maybe you are the one who ghosts. Whatever the reason or whomever is to blame, you find yourself with a case of Broken Heart-itis now.
This “illness” oftentimes strikes without warning or if there are signs leading to this unbearable disease, you think you will be able to handle it, it won’t be so bad, or even that “it won’t happen to me.”
But it happens. The relationship ends.
They leave. You leave. Whatever the reason. You now find yourself dealing with a set of emotions and mental anguish that no amount of education has prepared you to deal with. What do you do?
Where is the vaccine?
Like most of us, you probably cry your eyes out for what seems like weeks, stay inside your bedroom under the covers for days watching sad movies or listening to sad music, eating comfort food. Maybe you even beg the other person to change their minds, send countless texts and emails, seek revenge (I DO NOT advise this!!), drive by their homes, stalk their social media pages, talk to their family and friends, or begin dating random people! The list could go on and on.
So, let’s just say, we have done some things we are not proud of when we look back in retrospect.
No one prepares you for this pain. Nothing seems to ease the pain.
There are no talks when you are growing up about what to do when you experience a broken heart. There are no classes in your public or private education that teach you how to navigate the difficult waters of emotional turmoil. It seems to be something we have to go through. Ride out.
And if one more person tells you “You will be ok,” you will SCREAM!
We are told that time heals all wounds and it does for some. For others time heals nothing. Just how do we recover from Broken Heart-itis?
To be continued…